There are times in life where you just come to a stand-still, whether that be because you have looked for so long you think you are never going to find someone for you, or it be because you find someone, but have no real progress in making a meaningful relationship. I personally have been both.
There has been a time where I had looked for an extended period and had finally figured that not looking for a partner would be best. I had the mentality that not looking would allow me to focus on other things in life and if the time was right a guy would come to me. That worked, but what happens when that person is not a person you want to spend the rest of your life with?!
What happens when you date someone and you feel that person is your mate for life? What happens when that same person is not as interested as you are?! What happens if that person is super slow at making decisions in life? What do you do?!!!! What do you do especially when you have an interest in other guys and other guys have interest in you!? Do you continue to ignore the other guys that have interest in you and stick with the guy that is moving at a glacial pace, or do you give up on the turtle and focus on the hare?
This is the predicament many face, not just me. There are several things one has to determine for each, the hare and the turtle. First, the turtle needs to be evaluated in the following areas. If waiting will pay off. Is the turtle just indecisive or are they at the point of settling and not wanting to go fast because their interest is not very high? For the hare, one has to determine if there will be more of a pay off by attempting a relationship with the hare rather than the turtle. Is there anything that would prevent you from having a relationship with either, is another thing that is good to think about.
The only thing that can be done is make a decision and stick with it.
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
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